Yesterday morning, I shared the news of the election results with my kids and even my eight-year-old and six-year-old could sense the gravity of the moment. My son, Ari, said, "But Trump will destroy our country." Ooof- those words hit hard. As a parent, how do you respond to such a strong statement from a child? And how do you explain resilience and hope when you're grappling with the same concerns?

Here's what I said.

“You know, it’s okay to feel that way,” I told them. “I feel that a bit right now too. I’m worried about what this means for a lot of issues I care about and for people I care about.” I let that sit for a moment, giving them—and myself—space to process these emotions. After a pause, I continued, “But you know what I’m happy about? I’m happy that we can each make a difference in our own community, our own town, and our own school. You, me, and our family can still work to make things better. While we feel sad today, we’ll keep working toward a brighter future.”

They nodded, but my kids are curious. They wanted to know how we can make things better.

I told them that we start small. “We can be kind to each other, help a friend in need, and find one small thing every day that makes the world a little brighter.” They each came up with their own ideas: Ari said he’d help clean up the lunchroom, and Aliza promised to listen to her teachers the first time. Small actions, yes, but they represent a powerful mindset—one rooted in community, compassion, and taking positive action.

Earlier this week, I shared a quote by Coretta Scott King with my Rotary Club: "The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members." For me, this was a reminder that even in tough times, our compassion and kindness define us. Yes, I’m sad, and I’m giving myself the time to grieve this election. But I’m also inspired by the community I live in and the community I’m helping to build. It's that hope and commitment to resilience that will keep me moving forward.

For anyone feeling uncertain or disheartened by current events, remember that you have the power to create change in your own sphere. Start small, and inspire others through your actions. Together, as compassionate members of our community, we can make a lasting impact. In times of difficulty, let’s choose resilience and take steps to build the world we want for ourselves, our families, and our children.

Often as leaders, we are thinking about what to give to others; how are actions are affecting others. And that’s ok, it’s part of being a leader. But right now, I want each of us to focus on what we need. It’s so important to take a moment and do what you need to do to feel ok. Do you need to rage cycle on your indoor bike today (me 🙋🏻‍♀️). Do you need to binge on left over Halloween candy? Do you need to seek out your friends and family to talk it through? You do you, boo and give yourself permission to feel your feelings and take a moment for yourself.

This pertains to the state of the world now but also to anytime you’re struggling in your leadership journey. We are each better leaders when we can first show up for ourselves and take care of our needs.

This week, and for a while yet, I’m going to need to lean into the ways I can take care of myself. Last week I shared with you my Resilient Leadership: 5 Daily Practices for Success Guide- a resource I put together sharing the practices I rely on as a mother of three, community leader, and small business operator. And it's free! Download it and let me know how it helps you! This week, I’m sharing with you a quick Ladies in Leadership Podcast Episode I recorded as the companion to this guide. Take a listen here and let me know what you think! If you’re like me, sometimes it’s easier to pop in the airpods during a workout or walk to get the gist of the info. Hope it helps!